Working at the car wash

Okay, there is a song by almost that same title entitled Working at the Car Wash Blues by my favorite singer of all time, Jim Croce but unlike Jim’s song, there are no blues here.

The video here is about a father who started up a car wash to hire his son and others like him. The video is entitled “Car Wash Hires People with Autism” over at the 60 Seconds Docs Presents website.

So as I sit here, my son appears ready to move on from the Vocational Skills Program with the Special School District of St. Louis County, I am pondering what’s next for him.

He does love cars but I think our next step is to take him over to a car shop that a friend of my brother’s owns and see if he can hang out there again. We’ve done it once and we’re invited to come back. So that’s our next step.

Sincerely-

     

Autism Librarian

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Backstory

If I’ve learned nothing else in life, it’s that everyone has their own backstory and until you hear that story, you’ll never know what it is.  So this story tonight is about someone telling someone else their backstory.  All I can say is it’s a very powerful story.

The article is entitled  “To the Person Who Left Me Awestruck After I told You About My Son’s Autism” by Caitlin Johnson over at The Mighty. Like I said before, we all have one and while no two are alike, they are really all just as powerful. Hmmm….sounds just like autism.

Sincerely-

   

Autism Librarian

Back in the day

So this article about a letter from a mother to her autistic son doesn’t necessarily relate to me in regards to their relationship, it does take me back. In fact I just realized tonight I’ve been writing this blog for nearly ten years now.

At the time, my son and I were early on in our journey. So in honor of those ten years and for all mothers and fathers of sons or daughters with autism, this letter is for you. It’s entitled “A Letter to my Son with Autism” by Kristen Williams over at The Mighty. We should all write a letter to our child.

Sincerely-

  
  
Autism Librarian

Grocery shopping

So yesterday my oldest son and I went grocery shopping. Usually my daughter goes with me but I thought this time would be a good chance to take just him and talk a little bit about what we see, what we need and what he likes.

Unlike most times, this time I purchased a few things that he wanted, like things for his lunches at school and what he would like to have at home.  We also got the chance to just talk, without the interruption of his brother or sister. In other words, just good father and son time. Sometimes you just need that.

Sincerely-

  

Autism Librarian

Week 4

This sort of feels like a diary but I must confess, it’s a good feeling. Tonight was week four of golf and once again it was fun. It was fun watching my son get the chance to socialize with new friends. From a father’s perspective, it’s also nice to seem him get some exercise.

In honor of the 22nd anniversary of my dad’s passing, which is tomorrow, Happy Fathers Day Dad! I know he would be proud of both his grandson and me.

Sincerely-

  

Autism Librarian

Week 2

Okay, I wasn’t planning to blog about my son’s golf lessons over at TASK Sports again but, he had fun. While I don’t have much to do except observe and enjoy, I must say it’s been money well spent.

In fact, I haven’t played since my dad died (he actually died while playing golf but, I know he was with friends). I think if my son continues with this, I might just play again. Dad would have loved to play with us. Miss you and love you dad.

Sincerely-

  

Autism Librarian

A personal note

Tonight I don’t have an article, just an observation. The last few days I’ve been doing things that are focused on my son’s future. Today I did things that are focused on my future. Making a dentist appointment and getting a flu shot. Tomorrow I’m going to update my life insurance. The last couple of days I’ve been thinking about how I need to be there for his future. I need to be here for as long as I can. It’s what’s best for my son, his siblings and me.

Sincerely-

 

Autism Librarian

A gift from my son

So I finished the book Father’s Day by Buzz Bissinger tonight and I have to say that it’s given me great insight into my own son. In fact, at his play therapy appointment today we actually sat on the floor and played. Something we’ve never done and it was an amazing experience.

I somehow was able to have a conversation with him while at the same time, I was able to hear what I was saying. I think that came from the fact that  Buzz made a point of highlighting his own conversations with his son and so I was able to, like an out of body experience, process what I was saying as I said it, if that makes sense.

Like him, I don’t know where my son will end up and for any parent that’s a scary proposition but I also believe with all my fatherly heart that my son, like his, will continue to restore my faith in all that can be.

Sweet Dreams!

 

Autism Librarian